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My name is Brittney, and I am a recovering perfectionist. Who’s with me? I didn’t always know I was a perfectionist. I thought of a perfectionist as someone who was clearly, visibly close to perfect and maybe a little fussy about wanting things done a certain way. While some of that may qualify, it’s not the whole picture. Brené Brown said, “Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving to be your best. Perfectionism is the belief that if we live perfect, look perfect and act perfect, we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgment, and shame. It’s a shield. It’s a twenty-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when, in fact, it’s the thing that’s really preventing us from flight.” Quote from: The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
It wasn’t until I was helping clean up a hoarded home and uncovered a meticulously organized home underneath all the layers of clutter and grime that I really understood what perfectionism is and how it applies to me. Listen in to find out how.
How does your perfectionism show up in your life? Leave me a comment in the show notes!
Check out this article to find out how your perfectionism affects your children: The Perfectionist Parent
Perfection is boring! Let’s embrace our reality and the messy nature of life using radical self-acceptance.
“Self-acceptance starts with judgement-free observation. Watch yourself for a while. Hear your thoughts. Feel your feelings. Note your choices… your actions and inactions, strengths and weaknesses. Notice but don’t judge. Watch through the lens of curiosity instead of criticism.”
Take my self acceptance challenge! We are all in different places with this so be sure to set a goal that will challenge you but is achievable where you stand today:
What is something that annoys you or causes frustration every day? Notice the story you are telling yourself about that thing that is causing your frustration. How are you resisting reality? It is only when we accept that reality, and choose love that we can finally see the next step and move forward.
Using the tools we discussed, choose your challenge. Write down your goal, post it where you can see it and practice it. Remember: you can not fail at this, all you can do is learn.
If you choose to accept this challenge, please drop me a line about your experience! Leave a comment below or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I will report back in two weeks at the top of my fourth show.
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